Toronto Dating Sites Bite

Written by Christian Rumi 19 May 2012 2,900 views No Comment

Honestly, the reason I’m writing this is to express an opinion about dating sites that is held my many. Toronto dating sites bite. Why? Well, I’m more than sure sites offering the same services in other cities suck the same but since I’m out here in the good old T Dot, I might as well share my experiences.

Yes even the popular PlentyOfFish site sucks too and here’s why.

Dating sites don’t work!

suck-and-stopIf you want to really calculate who win’s with dating sites, start with the website owners. They probably take home more from their dating site than any user. And that goes with all of them – paid, free dating and the gigantic ones where it’s free and you pay for some services – they all suck.

We could also look deeper into the numbers and find a common ground, which in my opinion is that out of the thousands and millions who sign up at dating websites on a daily basis that less than 1% of the members find someone to marry.

And that’s what most people are looking for even if their profiles say just dating. Sure there’s a few who stick to their guns but from my observation it’s more cool to say “just dating” rather than being honest and saying that you’re looking for long term – what a farce.

If even 50% of the members of these sites found someone worthwhile dating I think the numbers would still indicate that dating sites bite.

When we go to a free service like Youtube.com, you’re not expecting your videos to work 50% of the time are we? And when we sign up for an account at PayPal, we’re not hoping we get our money in the mail 50% of the time are we? And what about websites were you pay for a service?

You’re not only expecting to be satisfied 50% of the time are you? No! Free or not, any site including a dating site should at least be able to boast a success or satisfaction rate of at least, to the very least 99.7%. The point is, it can’t be done with dating sites. Why? Because they bite.

I can name off the top of my head over a hundred people who have met other people for sex on dating sites but sex and dating are two different things. I’ve also known a few people who have genuinely registered at dating sites but have been able to find no one that suits their fancy.

These same people, who have given up on the online services usually find someone long-term in real life.

Features

Here’s a set of features any dating site would do well to introduce and would definitely help put a stop to the games and in turn make their sites more valuable.

  • request communications between members
  • once communication is set, the two users can agree to “become an item” so other’s can’t message them
  • after a first date, if one user goes back onto the site, the other user is notified and the accounts are separated

There’s tons more features I’ve been thinking about but I’ll save it for another post. With the above, requesting communication saves users a lot of time reading through the bull. If the video profile or regular profile looks good, they can accept the communication – it’s kind of like earning it and if you’ve don’t got a decent profile – good luck.

The second point keeps other members from intruding and taking one or the other off-focus. If you’re dating someone and respect them, you should be honest and forthwith. If you’ve decided you’re going to date someone, you don’t need to be picking through other people – that’s just life.

The third point is important as it tells the other user that the person they have been dating has decided to go back onto the dating site. A lot of people dating others hide their activities and this deception only ruins other peoples lives. Once the profiles are un-locked, good luck getting that trust back again. It’s possible but it’s going to take a lot of work or a lot of humbling.

Dating sites in Toronto or any other city in the world suck! If you’re bored, join them, you’ll have a blast and a tale or two to share but remember, you’ll mostly be wasting your time while the website owners rake in the cash at your expense.

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